ROBERT TICHELAAR
MEM PRACTITIONER
QLD, Australia
It is a privilege to be here with you to tell you a little bit about the Mace Energy Method and how it has helped me, feel safe in my environment and protect my identity.
I have been in the construction industry for over 30 years. I started as a landscape labourer, developing my career from contract Carpenter, Builder, Site foreman, Site manager, Project manager, to Construction manager. Working in all areas of the industry, from housing developments, Commercial and high-rise residential, and multimillion-dollar defence programs, to one of my favourites being part of the build team for Metricon Stadium.
Being in the construction industry, Stress has always played a big part in every position I have been in. When things get tough, you just get told, or you tell others to take a teaspoon of cement and harden the ???? up. This was all part of the norm, and you just get on with things. Stress was not just a part of my work life; it also was a part of my home life. In my case, I had to work away from home a lot because that’s where the industry took me. This also affected my quality family time with kids growing up.
It wasn’t until early 2017 that I found myself in a conflict of ethics and company integrity, feeling trapped in a situation that spiralled over time. I was not sleeping and often found myself on the lounge trying not to disturb my wife. I was always tired due to the lack of sleep, then all of a sudden, one morning I experienced my first panic attack, a feeling I had never felt before, and at that point, I thought I was dying.
I decided to see my doctor, who diagnosed me with Stress, Anxiety, and Depression. The doctor prescribed me drugs so I could deal with what was happening to me, and how I was going to right the wrongs I felt were being done to me.
I paid a visit to Master Builders Qld, who represent the construction industry, to see if they could help me with what my options were in working out these issues. Master Builders were very helpful with what I was looking for, but more credit goes to Master Builders for their ability to identify that something was wrong. They saw through the facade I was putting up in disguising my depression. They called Mates in Construction, who eventually put me on high-risk alert, which in other words means – suicide watch due to my erratic behaviour.
During this period, away from my work life, but now in my home life, a friend took advantage of the situation I was in and made a pass at my wife by telling her that things would be better with him. I was now dealing with two traumas in my life, thinking that everyone in my work and social life was out to get me. That’s when I threw up my defenses as I had an identity that thought this was the way to get through this traumatic time in my life.
I put in place a facade showing that everything was ok and in control when deep down it wasn’t. I constantly took that teaspoon of cement and continued to work for another three months before I had a major emotional breakdown. I now trusted nobody and distanced myself from all my friends, even writing to some of them about how I thought they were plotting against me after reading stupid articles on social media. This was now the world I believed in and was living in.
Constantly talking about my traumas seemed to help me for a couple of days, but the depression kept coming back, and to make matters worse, I was not trusting anyone I was talking to. Being placed on drugs that I had no understanding of, I was now having feelings of Anger, and the depression just got worse and worse to the point that I was feeling suicidal thoughts.
“I count myself as being very Fortunate; not all of us are” There are 3 people in the Construction Industry alone who commit suicide every week due to emotional stress, and an average of 8.3 people in the general populous suicide every day.
That day came for me, the day I had decided to commit suicide. I say I was fortunate because, as fate has it, I had pre-arranged to meet up with some friends for a catch-up, who are a part of the Mace Energy Method. They immediately saw my hidden facial indicators and “gave me a session that day” I can honestly say that the Mace Energy Method saved my life.
The session was like taking a breath of fresh air again. I felt safe in that environment; I didn’t have to talk anymore about my traumas and try to protect my personal identity. I knew the unwanted feelings I was having on that day were also controlling my decisions. After that MEM session, and the shame of wanting to commit suicide, the feeling of instant relief from the overwhelming feelings and negative thoughts that had become a part of my daily life had now gone. I felt I had more energy and was back in charge of my life. It was at that point my life changed, and I decided to become a full-time MEM Practitioner to help others.
MEM handles negative thoughts and feelings in minutes, not months; 1 – 3 sessions to handle your uncertainties so nobody needs to go through life feeling all those life-threatening unwanted feelings.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing… I also got to see that if I had gone and had a MEM Therapy Session when each of my stressful times was happening, a lot of the unwanted feelings would have been avoided, giving me the ability to work through my problems by being able to fix all of the situations as they happen with a clear head. Your greatest gift in life is your ability to adapt and find solutions.
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From a Doctor
I want to let people know of the wonderful work that Rob Tichelaar is doing with his MACE therapy techniques.
I have been experiencing significant anxiety and automatic negative thoughts particularly since separating from my husband of 10 years.
I found that our relationships have deteriorated so badly and the separation had become so acrimonious that I no longer knew how to not feel instantly scared, anxious or threatened whenever receiving any correspondence or at any interaction that I had with my ex-husband.
In preparation for meeting him in court in regards to our children, I engaged with Rob and found his method to have such a wonderfully calming effect. He helped me recognise my learned responses, and how to subsequently manage those immediate feelings.
He has taught me techniques to manage my emotions in these settings and has shown me how to get past the things holding me back.
I have since been to court and been free of the previous anxiety and distress. I feel much calmer and capable, and now manage my emotions, own my feelings, and move forward positively in my own life free from my previous burdens.
I cannot thank Rob enough for all he has done for me at this distressing and tumultuous time.
From an Office Manager
As I started to climb up the corporate ladder, I felt a sense of anxiety, a sense of “Can I do this?”/“Am I good enough?”
After my session with Rob, I felt a sigh of relief. Who knew that digging into my consciousness and identifying certain moments and fears throughout my life that I just ignored, and eliminating them using this method would lift that anxiety?
I am not one for expressing my feelings out loud, so the fact that I didn’t have to tell him anything about my life made me feel calm and open to achieving results in the session. I walked into work the following week to start my first day in management, and I felt confident and ready to take on the challenge.
Thank you, Rob, for helping me get through this hurdle.
From a Business Coach and HR Consultant
Once we truly understand as individuals that we hold the power to be, do and have whoever / whatever we want – the sky is the limit.
And I guess going through the MEM sessions with Rob helped be truly believe this. But the key is in the WANTING to make this change. And not necessarily to wait until you are in trauma or at your lowest point before we to do something about it.
Being non-disclosure therapy, I have been able to remove some identities I have created for myself through experiences I have never told a soul about. Ones that im embarrassed about or that I have not been able to talk about (which is big for me because generally I’m an open book). Doing this inner work has just helped me move forward and reduce the negative patterns I have been repeating for many years.
As a HR practitioner and business coach I have a super big interest in how we can increase emotional intelligence and I’m always seeking different tools that can assist this for me and my clients. In my mind, the first step in this is awareness and that’s exactly what MACE gives you. The chance to become aware of what has been in your way of achieving your goals and the simple methodology that can help you remove those blocks – and not just in the short term, but forever.
This to me is a game changer when it comes to developing emerging leaders and creating high performing teams in the business space. But that also has a twofold effect. If we can assist people in business with their mindset then it will have a ripple effect into their personal life – and vice versa.
Personally, I have been able to move my business forward in a way that I have been trying to for the past 12 months, but I kept coming up with resistance, after resistance. And I was also self-sabotaging my success. I knew this but didn’t know how to stop it. Since attending sessions with Rob I have powered ahead with my business. Not because now suddenly clients are coming out of the woodwork but because
I believe in what I am doing is exactly where I need to be right now.
I have this newfound confidence and certainty in what i need to be sharing with the outside world in order to serve businesses in the way I want to serve.
I’m so much more focused because I believe in myself. I am capable. I am worthy. I am great at what I do.
This is shining through in conversations I have and I’m making connections I never thought I would.
Bring. It. On.
It’s been a super fun and busy month since starting this process with Rob. But I am so energised and excited about what’s next. My family also are seeing the positive effect it has had on me – I’m much calmer and finding joy in just about everything I do. The kids are loving having a present mum again. And I’m loving the increasing bank balance!
Michelle, Teacher
I was fortunate to meet Rob while on holiday, where I received a therapy session with him. I was so impressed with his professionalism and the support he provided to me throughout the session. I was able to let go of many emotional disturbances that I could see were holding me back and preventing me from moving on.
After one session, I felt lighter in my body as I was no longer holding onto any anxious feelings that would prevent me from living life to the full. Within a week after the first session, Rob promptly arranged a follow-up phone session where he checked in on how I was feeling to ensure we had really got to the root of the upsets and that they had been eliminated completely.
All I can say is that as a school teacher, it has been a real gift to experience the power of the Mace Energy Method (MEM), and I can see how this program has enormous potential in supporting other teachers to improve their well-being and confidence.
Rob has a genuine passion for supporting people to reach their full potential through the Mace Energy Method (MEM), as he knows through his own personal experience with the program and through the many lives he has transformed through his work as a MEM practitioner of the power of this therapy.
Thanks, Rob. I will always be deeply grateful to you.
From a single mother
After Rob gave me a Mace Energy Method Session, and as time went on, I know this method has changed my life. My life is now mine again – I am able to live life, love others and be confident! Confident in myself and in my future.
With them MEM I was able to dig deep into my consciousness to identify the trauma, anxiety, bodily issues, fears and to be honest so many other issues that I didn’t even know were residing deep within me and eliminate those identities that were created.
The MEM is for me amazing and the sense you don’t have to tell anyone what the trauma, feelings, addictions or whatever it is you have to deal with- you simply don’t have to ‘talk’. You can just deal with whatever is holding you back and become the best version of yourself.
After the MEM session ended, I felt so happy, so free, so light in a sense. The negative feelings and thoughts were no longer weighing me down and to be honest you could not wipe the smile from my face. I now feel so confident in the future ahead of me and excited with what is to come, that is all thanks to Rob and the Mace Energy Method.
Anonymous
Just wanted to thank you for introducing me to Causism and your lovely Sharon for promoting what you do. Without us crossing paths, my life would be very different right now. Not only did you help me purge negative feelings towards myself and my life, but in doing that, I am now in control of the drinking habit I had developed many years ago to cope with many nasty things that had happened in my life.
I had tried many things in the past, but to no success – I started thinking I would always be that way … but then you came along with the MEM therapy and wow! After a week of working with you – ie, 2 sessions – one face-to-face and one by phone.
The difference was astounding. So much so that now I have decided to study as a practitioner and help you and others take this to the world! I will now not only realise my dream of being changed but also my passion to help others.
From a Natural Practitioner
As a Natural Practitioner, I was very interested in learning more about the Mace Energy Method. Many of my clients have issues with depression and/or anxiety or irrational fears, and I am always looking for ways to help them and people to refer to. I had a session with Rob recently to try it out for myself. I was very surprised to find that I was quickly and easily brought back to old memories from the past – memories that I had completely forgotten about, but now I could easily. Along with the visions were the feelings attached …embarrassment, lack of self-worth, etc., etc. … back from school days. Rob skillfully led me through processes to release the feelings attached to each memory that came up, and very quickly, the feelings were gone.
During the short follow-up session, I was able to tell Rob the differences I noticed in myself over the past week. Most notably, when situations arose where I felt frustrated (this happened to be by a tradesman who was pushing my buttons at the time!), I found I reacted very differently. Instead of getting frustrated and annoyed at the tradesman, I actually laughed and found it all quite funny. I feel like this has continued, and I don’t get so wound up about the little things. I feel calmer and more relaxed in stressful situations, which is wonderful!
I would definitely recommend Rob – he is a great practitioner who really cares and is passionate about helping people.
Sandra
Robert guided me through his program a few weeks ago and I have to state that not only the amazing script but also his insightful guidance did help me to work profoundly on certain issues that I had ignored, forgotten or denied over the years. Often specific traumas or events can leave us with emotional injuries, many of them hidden underneath a lot of layers of subconsciousness. Yes, they can cause sometimes drastic consequences in our lives if not addressed properly. Although I worked thoroughly and spiritually on my wellbeing over the last month, I admit that a few issues simply fell through the radar and thanks to Robert we managed to find and release them quite fast and efficient! I recommend Roberts services to everyone who needs healing of any emotional burdens of their past.
Anonymous
When I had a session with Robert I was frustrated because I did not understand what he wanted me to do at the beginning. I was telling him that I don’t understand, I can’t do this. I thought this session didn’t work well for me. He tried and tried and took long time to guide me to get a point that I suddenly understood. I felt all cloud in my head disappeared. I was feeling so light. I thought I was flying in blue sky. And I was laughing!
Now I understand that I am the one who creates everything, who
chooses to create and who can choose not to create. This discovery is a treasure. I am enjoying choosing my feeling now.